You have just heard your spouse utter the words you have been dreading to hear – ‘I want a divorce’. Although you had an idea those words were coming that doesn’t make them any easier to hear. When you first saw trouble start to brew in your marriage relationship you should have acted to head it off, but you didn’t know what to do. But, take heart, it’s not too late to put into motion some special techniques to save your marriage.

When one spouse wants a divorce it is likely they are feeling unfulfilled in the relationship. This feeling in turn leads to complaining and fault finding. Because of the fault finding the other spouse feels they must defend their self and a big argument ensues. This leads to each of them claming up and the hurt feelings start to build up. When this pattern continues for some time one of the partners in the marriage feels they have had enough and states they want a divorce. When you look at the situation from this angle it seems like rather childish actions on the part of two adults. Yet this scenario is being played out countless times in countless marriages everyday.

How easily all this could be avoided if we just set aside our egos and pride. When your spouse is angry or complaining about something, stop and look at them. Realize how much you love them and that everyone becomes ill tempered and frustrated at times. Hold your tongue and don’t lash back. Turning a complaint or frustration into a big blowup sure won’t help keep harmony in the marriage.

By holding your tongue you are letting your mate get it off their chest and when they cool down they will see how foolish they were to hurt the one they love and apologize.

But, if things have gotten to the point that they want a divorce, use the same tactic and don’t argue or get emotional. Instead agree with them and offer a trial separation for both of you to think things over. You could even agree to help with their packing and move. This puts things in another perspective for your spouse, now they are wondering if you had this in mind all along and see you as stronger than they thought.

“How can I stop my divorce?” This is question you may be asking yourself if you and your spouse are in the midst of a divorce. If you are suffering through a bad breakup with your husband or wife but still love them intensely, it can be difficult to know what you can do or say to stop a divorce. After all, there can be some hard feelings you have to work through and get past to get your message across to your significant other. So, ask yourself once more, “How can I stop my divorce” and follow these simple tips to help you achieve this goal.

Stop My Divorce Tip #1 – Don’t Beg/Don’t Plead Your Case

It’s common for people who don’t want to get divorced to plead their case to their spouse. However, they don’t realize that the pleading they are doing is falling on deaf ears. Your spouse doesn’t want to hear what you have to say about stopping the divorce. They are seeing you acting desperate and needy, which is not how you want to come across at that moment. Instead, stay confident about things and find another way to win your spouse back.

Stop My Divorce Tip #2 – Arguing Your Case

Believe it or not, arguing your case doesn’t do any good. You need to keep in mind that there are feelings of hurt and anger. When you argue your case, even when you make a good point, your spouse is likely to get even angrier. Find another way to get through to them.

Stop My Divorce Tip #3 – Stop Insisting You Love Them

Your marriage was the time to insist to your spouse that you loved them. It was then you had to show them that you still cared for their feelings and that you loved them with all your heart. Now that your significant other is making a stand and leaving you, you shouldn’t try to convince them and yourself that you still love them. Wait until another time and find another way.

Stop My Divorce Tip #4 – Making Promises You Won’t Keep

If you kept making promises in your marriage but kept on breaking them, then there is no way to convince your significant other with more promises. In fact, you’ll only turn them off from you by making promises they suspect from past experiences that you won’t keep. Avoid making these promises and find another way to win the love of your life back.

Stop My Divorce Tip #5 – Give Your Significant Other Space

One of the first things you should do if you want to stop your divorce is to give your spouse some space. This is the time you need to create a plan that doesn’t involve the pleading, begging, insistence, promises and arguments. If you are asking yourself, “How do I stop my divorce”, the best thing you can do is to let your spouse figure things out for themselves while you do the same thing for yourself.

Hiding money (assets) during a divorce is illegal and unethical. Never the less it’s more common than you think. Both men and woman alike have and continue these tactics daily. I am in no way advocating hiding assets. I am simply documenting facts to help educate and protect.

By hiding money your spouse may be trying to lower child support and alimony payments. You and your attorney must look to uncover any hidden moneys and to prove the actual amount of money that your spouse has available.

I‘ve listed five items below to give you a starting point for finding hidden income and assets.

1) Your spouse may defer a part of his salary until after the divorce. Look for letters, notes, or emails asking to defer income. Look at past history of your spouses earnings. If he/she is normally receives $50,000 per year in commissions and suddenly not receiving any money or a dramatic drop. Advise your attorney.

2) Some spouses receive bonuses in addition to their net pay. Look for deals where partial bonuses are paid and the other portion is put into a separate account accruing to the benefit of the employee. Bonuses can be deferred for future distribution. Look for a pattern of bonus payments in the past.

3) If your partner is suddenly, chronically short of cash, or if their weekly ATM withdrawal doubles, that could be a sign. Many stores now let you get cash back when using your debit card for purchases. Your spouse can be adding $20, $40, or more to ever purchase. Check receipts.

4) Does the mail come to your home? If not, that could be a red flag that your spouse doesn’t want you to see certain incoming statements.

5) Any changes in the way family finances are handled. Did that joint savings account suddenly disappear? Was there a piece of a stock sold or got rolled over into something else?

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