So a divorce has become inevitable. How do you tip the scale of justice in your favour right from the start knowing there is a general bias in favour of women in the divorce courts?

Below are 3 steps that you can put into action right away that will help you protect your money. Later on in the article I will reveal a resource that could make a difference to you out manoeuvring your soon to be ex wife in the divorce courts and keeping all your prized possessions or you losing everything you have ever worked for to her.

1. Stop making any more contributions to your pension funds. This is because your soon to be ex-wife may be entitled to half of what you have already paid in.
You cannot do anything about any amounts you may have already paid in but you certainly do not want to keep increasing her share of your money.

If you are an employee, then speak to your HR department and let them know you would like to stop making any further contributions to your pension plan for now.

It is important that you let them know that you are not withdrawing from the scheme. Let them know you are going through a divorce and that as soon as your divorce is finalised you will resume your contributions.
If you are self employed, then make sure you speak to your financial adviser as soon as possible.

2. Open a separate bank account with a different bank: If you have always operated a joint account with your partner, now is the time to go your separate ways. You need to open you own separate bank account.

It is even better if you open your own account with a totally different bank from the one you jointly used.  This way, she not only has no idea which bank you currently use, after a while she will be unable to guess how much you have in your account.

3. Do not go into a new relationship until your divorce has been finalised: It is important that you try as much as possible not to get into a new relationship.

If you meet someone you like or are interested in, then explain the situation to them. Any woman who really likes you will understand and hang around until your divorce is finalised.

Getting into a new relationship before an old one is finalised would only complicate matters, especially if your soon to be ex wife gets to know about it.

She could on the basis to that decide to make the divorce more contentious, lengthy and of course more expensive.

“I want to know how to save my marriage from divorce.” Sadly this is a statement that many people are making on a daily basis as they feel their primary relationship slowly coming apart at the seams. When the dynamic within your marriage starts to shift you may feel that the only course you can take is to divorce. It doesn’t have to be. If you still love your partner and keeping your family together is your goal, there are definitely some simple things you can do to reawaken the commitment and create an even closer emotional bond between you two.

When I was discovering how to save my marriage from divorce I came to realize that the harder I held onto my spouse, the more they pulled away. Sometimes, particularly in relationships where the partners are living together, one or both need a bit of breathing room before they can start to work towards healing the relationship. If your partner has said they need to leave your home or they need some time apart, your natural instinct is going to be to fight them on this. You want them to stay with you so you two can work things out. Letting them go may actually be more beneficial in the long run. Often times a person doesn’t fully realize what they are at risk of losing until they’ve had some time alone. Let your spouse go and chances are very good they will come to really miss you before too long.

You’ve also got to get behind your spouse and be as supportive with them now as you were in the early days of your relationship. It’s so easy to fall into a trap of resenting and secretly despising your partner because they don’t help you with the children or they seem more devoted to pursuing their own interests than they do of contributing to rebuilding the marriage. This can happen if your partner feels you don’t support them. Make an effort each day to only see the good in the person you married. Focus on those qualities you love most about them. If you can do that, you’ll find that both your attitudes will shift over time to a more positive and open place.