A contested divorce consumes a lot of time and money and may drag on for years, thus prolonging your suffering. Besides, the courts have a lot of power at their disposal, and may sometimes give verdicts which are beyond your expectations and are undesirable. This wastage of time, money and emotional energy will not only pinch you in the present, but may have serious repercussions for your post-divorce life. The money, time and effort you save in an uncontested divorce, may be well spent, supporting your children and yourself after the divorce. Also, you will end up with less of emotional garbage to dispose off. In simple words, a conventional divorce is full of hassles and can be avoided. Things always do not have to be necessarily tough, to yield good results. Sometimes an easy way out is possible and you certainly deserve that.



An uncontested divorce is one in which the two spouses amicably resolve all the issues concerning their divorce, on their own, without resorting to protracted court hearings. Whether you can opt for an uncontested divorce or not, will depend on a number of factors. First and foremost, the intensity of conflict between the two spouses should be relatively mild and both should have reasonable levels of communication with each other. This should be backed by a sincere desire to get over with the divorce, as soon as possible. However, in situations, where there exists a history of domestic violence and abuse, the aggrieved spouse certainly deserves appropriate redressal through a court, and an uncontested divorce is not possible. Also, if either of the spouses is non-cooperative and vicious, one may have to go for a contested divorce. Still an uncontested divorce certainly has many advantages over a contested one and is hassle free. Besides being time saving and economic, it gives you the opportunity to avoid sorting out your grievances in the public. The biggest advantage is that an uncontested divorce is soft on the children. Both the parents are able to deal with the situation, without exposing the children to unwarranted conflict and hatred. You can comfortably settle the things, in the privacy of your home. It certainly demands an optimum awareness regarding the law, on the part of both the spouses.



The secret of having a hassle free divorce is to choose mediation or collaboration over litigation. In an ideal scenario, it will be best if both the spouses sit together and sort out the issues amongst themselves, without any external help. You don’t have to be a lawyer to do so. Many genuine online divorce services are available, which can help you with the documentation and render legal advice, at a fraction of the cost, which the lawyers will charge you. However, if you feel that anger and irritability may hamper any productive communication between you and your spouse, you can go for mediation. A mediator is a sort of counselor who acts neutral and specializes in creating a congenial environment, in which both the spouses can settle their divorce issues like family support, child custody, division of property and visitation. When it comes to actual settlement, both the parties can appoint their personal attorneys, to see things from their perspective and draft the settlement agreement as per their requirements. On the contrary, in collaboration, both the parties hire their attorneys and allow them to settle the issues amongst themselves, out of the court. Both are appropriate and hassle free methods of forging a divorce and cost much less in terms of time and resources.



You can no doubt have an easy and smart divorce. The need is to exhibit restrain and patience. If your spouse is not cooperating, try to convince him/her. The chances are that he/she may see the light and save your family from an endless ordeal.

Moving out and finding an apartment can be a good thing. It will start the divorce proceedings.  But, if you have  youngsters, you do not want to move out. If you were to move out the other spouse may end up getting the  youngsters because the live in the home and it’s a stable environment.  Also, they may be given the home just for the fact that there are  youngsters and you have already made arrangements to live elsewhere’s.

 But, if you move out you will have relief from the arguments and torture that many people take while trying to push a divorce through. If you would really like to keep the house, then you should stay until the judge has made his decision. At the temporary relief hearing, this is when you can make your plea to come back or make the other move out.

When you do move out and find an apartment you can look for apartments that are for those who are going through a divorce. They are usually very cheap and most people will keep to themselves. If you do move out and without the  youngsters than you should see them as much as you possible can arrange so that the judge will allow you to keep your visits. You may want to purchase an apartment that has  heaps of room for the  youngsters and you may want to set up with rooms so that when they come to your place they can be entertained and comfortable.

When you move you, take everything that you would like with you. You should take any personal things like your clothes and jewelry. You should also inventory everything that you take so that it can’t come back as stealing. If you take it out right away, the law will see it as yours. Depending on what it is and the value of it (money or personal) you may be able to keep it or you may have to be ordered to give it back. But, if you would like it, please take it with you, because you never know what they may do to your things.  Also, don’t be greedy; leave most of the furniture, unless it was in your den or private area. You should never clean the house out, regardless of who owned what. It will look bad in court, plus you don’t want the  youngsters to be disrupted.

When you move out, don’t go to the girlfriend/boyfriend’s place. You want to show independence and it may be just what you need. If you cannot afford a place on your own, you should move in with a friend or family member. You should not’ move back to the parents because you never know what dirt the lawyer can dig up about your family when it comes to custody of the  youngsters.  Also, make sure that this other person would have no personal interaction with you so they can’t say that you are dating each other. Moving in with a close friend or cousin will make the rent easier to be paid and you won’t be completely alone. You will have someone to stay with that will support you.

Once you are settled in your new place you can gradually begin to build a new life. Go out, meet new people, have fun. Just don’t do anything that would make you look bad if someone brought it up in court. This way you can move on with your life, but you don’t mess up a good beginning.  If there aren’t  youngsters involved you may even want to move out of state if your family is located somewhere else. This way you can have family around you be able to move on.