Judges tend to be more sympathetic with wives, especially mothers, and give importance to their plight while deciding the case. They take into account their financial situation and emotional troubles. In most divorce situations, women are assigned child custody by the court and the husband is directed to pay her alimony for their upkeep.



There are many reasons for this. Women and children have a very strong bond that is unmatched by any other relationship. The former are also considered more sensitive, tender and caring than men as far as interacting with the kids is concerned. Children also respond to mothers naturally and seek them for protection and comfort. Usually, men live separately from the family after divorce and are allowed to see children once a week or so through visitation rights.



Divorce is a different ballgame for men and they have to tackle different challenges. For them, the family split is a costly affair. They often have to move out of the house and seek new accommodation. Apart from this, the family assets are divided among partners and they have to pay a good chunk of their income as alimony to their ex-wife until the children are grown up or she remarries.



Women have one major advantage after divorce. They have full-time access to kids because of child custody. Due to this, mothers often give their own twist and interpretation to their divorce story and may fill the kids with bitterness or hatred for their fathers. This is almost like psychological warfare which weakens the already tenuous bond between dads and kids.



It is actually a myth that men have a thick skin compared to women and are hardly affected by the various ups and downs of their lives. The reality is that the former are as emotional as women. They have the same feelings as the fairer sex. It is only that men have been conditioned to not show their emotions in public.



This is because there are other people (wives, children, sisters, mothers, younger siblings) who look up to men for support and protection. If the latter show their tender side in public and become emotionally perturbed in front of everyone, the rest of people become insecure and panic.



This is the reason why men do not generally show their emotions publicly, and those who do are considered somewhat unmanly. But men who are sensitive by nature suffer as much as women do when the divorce takes place. For one, they do not get child custody and are forced to meet their kids occasionally, strictly at the frequency decided by the court.



It has often been observed that many men after divorce also suffer from health problems. If the divorce was filed by their spouse, they are totally unprepared for the emotional trauma inflicted on them for no fault of theirs. They feel betrayed and rejected and slip into chronic depression. Many are forced to seek professional treatment to come out of their condition.



For a child’s normal upbringing, it is essential that he or she get love and affection equally from both the parents. Mothers offer them emotional security and support and act as their confidante, while fathers teach them discipline and give them guidance in worldly matters.



Fathers are actually regarded as the main role model by children, especially the boys. It has been found in various studies that teenage children from divorced families not living with their fathers have more behavioural and psychological problems compared to those supervised by their dads.



It is a myth that single fathers cannot bring up children on their own, but single mothers can. Today, more and more dads are willing to accept child custody and bring up the kids on their own. But for this, they have to make some changes in their lifestyle and take some measures at home. If the kids are small, then they have to look for a crèche or hire a reliable baby sitter who can take care of the children in their absence.



Single fathers should keep one thing in mind. They can never replace mothers. It is just not possible. So it is better to be honest with the kids and try to be as good a father as they can. The children will understand the situation and accept the reality that their mother is no longer with them.

When you have just settled your divorce, it is hard to imagine staying friends with your ex spouse. There are still so many issues on the table and so many important things to fight over. Your world may feel like falling apart, and friendship with your ex spouse is the last thing on your mind. Keep the following considerations in mind and maybe you can open up your heart and work out a comfortable friendship with your ex spouse.



The first thing you should do is maintain a sense of dignity and respect during negotiations with your spouse. Stay calm and keep emotions out of the discussions. It is hard as both are hurt over the past marital problems and unsolved issues. If you can’t continue discussing, choose to stop, and continue later when you feel more comfortable. Time will heal all hurt. If you cannot deal with your ex face to face, a lawyer or mediator will come in handy.



Once divorced, you have to compromise, even if you do not like it. By compromising, you can work out how the assets will be divided, child custody, and who gets what decisions. It is important to be understanding that sometimes something is more important to your spouse than to you, for example family heirloom passed down from generations. Being considerate and willing to compromise will naturally make your spouse doing the same for you.



Being divorced means living separately. You have no rights to comment how and who your ex should start living from now on. New interests, hobbies and new partners are off limits to you. What it simply means, is you and your ex should be moving on, meeting new people and dating new people without judgments from one another. Being overly friendly and knowing too much will have the same negative impacts as well. So, maintain some space and know your boundaries.



The last but not the least, stop bickering or complaining to your friends and relatives on how bad you were treated by your ex. I am sure they have heard enough. Since the marriage is over and the divorced settled, I think there is no reason to speak negatively of your ex. Concerned friends might ask why you are divorcing and prying questions that you want to avoid. Simply be nice and smile and move the topic to something else to reduce risk of offending anyone. Short and general answers like ‘we grew apart’ are best used to help to keep the questions at bay. You do not have to avoid functions that both you and your ex are both invited. Present yourself as confident and happy, and remember you do not have to answer a question just because it is asked, especially if it is personal.



Divorce is common nowadays. People are more acceptable and forgiving than ever before. The most important point is to move on and start living a new life. Put the hurt and past behind and maintain in good terms with your ex spouse for the sake of common friends and children, if any.